About Kay Daniels Romance, This and That

Not An Expert – Yes It’s True – Follow Me Anyway

Like a lot of people I’m sure, I learned good advice from my father.

Do I remember it at the right time so I can apply said advice?

Not particularly. Hind sight and all that make that advice extra helpful when I’m frustrated.

Something he said numerous times while growing up, when something was broken-take it to a professional-my dad was not a fix-it type handyman nor did he claim to be one. There are trained professionals who fix cars, refrigerators, your cabinets falling off the wall because they were chintzy 70’s fake paneling made to look like wood and when overloaded with 1000’s of dishes they might rip away from the walls–not that I would know anything about that particular last item–ahem…

So back to a professional taking care of business.

I also have a stubborn streak a mile long. If I can do it I will do it, not the car fixing type of do it, but more along the lines of let me see if I can bake that cake into several tiers just because I can…and epic fail when they are crooked and I run out of frosting, but it still tastes delicious because hey it’s cake…no real loss.

What is my point to this weird, boring story?

I have one, don’t worry.

I’ve been debating on the best way to mash together all my media sites/ information in the best way possible so I can send it out in a format that will garner attention. After lots of thought I decided a quick little video was cute and painless.

Cute-yes, painless-no.

There are 100’s or maybe even 1000’s of apps to make these things and reading all the comments finally become ridiculous. I eventually did the enny-meany-miny-mo method and just chose one.

Making my original pictures for each site was fun and painless, but getting them into a video was painstaking and frankly I never want to do it again. I tried several and eventually I got to the frustrated stage and just went with what I had because well….I’m stubborn. GAH. I said it!!

Sorry Dad!

So, if I have learned anything after this event; always listen to advice from your father. It’s as good today as it was 40+ years ago, but since he also taught me to never give up here is the fruit of my labor.

This and That

Twitter; the evolution of reinventing yourself

You can talk to anyone, at any time, about anything. You can be anything you want to be and it is the most freeing you will ever feel. No I’m not talking about October 31st where you get to play dress up for 1 night out of the year. I’m talking about Twitter where a new evolution of reinventing yourself has evolved. A place where people go to “play” out their fantasies or live out a better life if only for just a few hours.

How did this social media evolve into a place that started as a way for people to report on small daily happenings, shout out quirky comments, or even upload a few photographs into a place where role play has almost taken over and you begin to question if the person you are talking to is even really who they say they are?

It made me want to delve deeper into this world and really try on the hat of an RP’r to see just what was going on behind the scenes. Without giving away anything about what I do or who I am, this is what I discovered.

Creating a persona was scary, yet fun all rolled into one. I became part of an established group and was immediately thrown into a place where fans started following me. I was in awe of the enormous responsibility I felt. The responsibility alone of keeping up the quality of the written word and the quality of the characters behind the stories we were role playing was a weight I felt immediately. Placed there solely due to the fact that we were playing out characters written by one of my favorite authors.

I also needed to keep followers entertained when we weren’t doing main storylines, which was a main focus for me. I was not a main character in the plot. If I wanted to build a fan base, I would have to build it based on my creativity alone. I had no problem pulling ideas out of my….head, and slowly, but steadily my fan base has grown.

Starting off right out of the gates, just having the name attached to my account, it was somewhat like having instant star status. Like Orlando Bloom putting on his Legolas outfit. Orlando is a man and Legolas is the character, I was suddenly wearing the Legolas costume.


Lines began to blur and realities began fade. I found myself wondering if it was me or the character speaking. Who was really running the show, the character or the real me?

Immersing within the persona of the character, I created relationships with people who really believed I was this person. That was like living in another world, or alternate reality.

On some level it was freeing, on another I wished I could have been honest and truthful with the people I was talking to on the other end. Tell them that “Yes, I am an entirely other person, but don’t hate me because I’m not a bad person.” Yeah, that would go down well.

The thing is, that freeing feeling I had in the beginning when I put on the “Legolas costume”, started to close in on me. I began to wonder if playing a character was really worth the price for lying to people. I was living in a world of daily anxiety. Wondering if or when people might find out about my dual life. Both in my personal and in my fictional world. Living wild and free was beginning to take its toll.

I had two options; one-continue lying and keep up the ruse. Two-confess and hope the people I’d built relationships with would still want to continue one with me after I explained I had been lying to them. Both options caused me even more anxiety.


I wish I had the perfect answer for those seeking one in this crazy world that has become a huge part of Twitter. The only advice I can offer is be true to your heart. It is what is on the inside of people that is important.

As for myself, people who were always true to you, no matter if you decided to wear pointy ears and tights, will be true no matter what. People who want to bail will jump ship no matter what happens. Why not find out who would masquerade with you instead of lurking in the shadows waiting to stab you in the back?

About Kay Daniels Romance

About Kay Daniels Romance

Born & raised in a small town, I graduated with a degree in education and a minor in language arts from a State University. I’ve worked various jobs starting in retail where the customer is always right. Then I moved into child care where the children were taught how to behave right. Next, I worked in human resources where the employees were mostly right. So what is my next big step? Currently reading worlds where the characters aren’t always perfect, but through reading I am transported away where love makes my own kind of right. Siiiiggghhhhh. 

I currently live in Illinois with my high school sweetheart in the middle of nowhere. Between my two children and diva cat I stay busy reading, blogging and living in the fictitious worlds I never want to leave in my head. Never let anyone tell you that country life is boring.

What do I do in my down time? Reading, writing, and blogging about one or the other. Find me on me on the socials listed below to see what I’m reading or writing about. 

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